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I wana Ask u my Sheiku Murshid, my parents are pressurized about marrying me off to a Syed, since we're syeds and in our family, no one has ever married a non-syed. I feel very strongly for this person and I hate the idea of my parents forcing me to marry someone else just because he's a syed. This person that I want to marry feels just as strongly for me. He comes from a good family, he's educated and has good faith. His only problem is that he isn't a Syed. My problem is, I feel very torn because I hate hurting my parents and also feel scared about being disobedient to them and the fact that Allah might not like me being disobedient. But on the other hand, I hate this forced arranged marriage because I know my heart is elsewhere and I would never be able to give myself to someone else. So please tell me what to do. Am I doing something wrong by disobeying my parents and hurting them like this?
Answer:We must obey Shareeah and follow the Principals.The way life of Huzur Nabee Kareem is model which leads to heaven so answer to ur asked Question:

It is wrong to marry a Sayyid who is this way, and you have obligation to obey your parents.u r going to decid on the base of ur feelings.which is emotional,try to think normaly.

you mantiond that guy belng to good family no doubt he wld,all families are good but the family of prophet PBUH is the Best.

Huzur Said our daughters for our sons and our sons for our daughters.

Hadith, the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: �A woman is married for four reasons, her wealth, lineage, status and Deen. So choose the one who is religious�. (Sahih al-Bukhari, 2/762).

so it is not only the matter of hurting ur parents it is surly matter of hurting huzur nabee kareem.so avoid it.if ny sayyeda weds with non syed the marriage itself will be invalid.If she marries herself to someone who is a suitable match (kuf�)belong to equal family for her, then there is agreement in the school that the marriage is valid and binding.If she married herself to someone who is not a suitable match for her, then the fatwa in the madhhab is that the marriage is invalid. This is the narration of Hasan ibn Ziyad from Abu Hanifa, and was chosen by Qadi Khan, Marghinani and the later scholars as the fatwa position in the madhhab.Suitability (kafa�a) of the man is the right of the guardian (wali) and the right of the woman. As such, if both drop their right, it is not of consideration. If one drops their right to consider the suitor�s suitability, the other�s right remains.

Suitability is considered at the time of the marriage contract, not after.Suitability and compatibility (kafa�a) is also one of the important things that need to be considered when choosing a spouse. One of the main ingredients for a prosperous and successful marriage is compatibility. The greater the compatibility and more similar your goals and outlooks, the more likely is the prospect of a successful marriage.

What are the considerations for suitability?

Suitability is considered in six things:

1. Lineage, if the two parties are of Arab origin;

2. Islam;

3. Freedom;

4. Wealth;

5. Religiousness;

6. Profession.

1. Lineage:

Arabs, according to the fuqaha, are those whose lineage is established to go back to one of the Arab tribes. Others are considered non-Arab (`ajami).

All Arabs are considered suitable for each other, except that non-Qurayshis are not considered suitable for Qurayshis.

Non-Arabs are not suitable matches for Arabs.

you must know you arab and belong to the family of huzur nabee kareem you are the cream of the best creation and generation.how cm non arab and non fatimee equal to a syeda who is daughter of nabee kareem.

non-Arab man isn't a suitable match for an Arab woman ". . . (because of the hadith that the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, `Allah has chosen the Arabs above others'')".the Hanafis, Shafi`is and Hanbalis, have mentioned that suitability (kafa'a) is considered in marriage.A woman's marriage to a non-suitable man is not valid. If they live together, they are living together unlawfully.
whn common arab has chosen so think about the Master of universe syede alameen and his generation.they are above all families and ranks after messangers.

Someone Muslim whose father is Muslim but paternal grandfather is not Muslim is not a suitable match for someone whose paternal grandfather is Muslim.

and your entire linage is muslim and momin so no one non syed can be suitable at all.
Islamically, an adult woman has the right to choose or agree to the person she will marry, for the obvious reason that this is the person who will be her companion and ameer for the rest of her life.

If the person is not suitable for religious reasons, or his character, personality, or something else that will not make her happy or secure with him, then she has the full right to refuse to marry him, and her parents cannot force her to do so against her will. Then, if she continues to refuse, the marriage will not be valid. If they force her to accept against her will, they will have wronged her.

Dont do any thing wrong try to find any syed partner it is obligtry
Suitability and compatibility (kafa�a) is one of the most important things that need to be considered when looking for a spouse. One of the main ingredients for a prosperous and successful marriage is compatibility. This is the reason why Islam laid great emphasis on it.

The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) is reported to have said:

�When you find a suitable partner for a widow (non-married woman, m), then conduct the marriage without any delay� (Sunan Tirmizi, 1/206).
It should be remarked here that all non-Arabs are considered a suitable match to each other [and for Arabs without a known and established lineage to one of the original Arab tribes, which is rare, as mentioned by Ibn Abidin � F] from a fiqhi aspect
caste and family origin

O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know each other. Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) most righteous of you� (Surah al-Hujurat, 13).

three points to understand:

1.We created you,
2.Made you into nations and tribes
3.That you may know each other

Nation and tribes are created by Allah and it created for recognation and identity.but hindu cast concept is invaild in islam islam has its geniune comprhncive concept of tribe nd nation which is totaly diffrent .

3. Freedom

(Of little relevance in our times.) The same considerations apply to freedom (f: i.e. not being a slave) as do with Islam.

4. Wealth
This entails the suitor possessing:

a) the amount of mahr (dowry) that is customarily given up front (f: not the whole mahr), and

b) a month�s support for the wife, if without a job, or being able to provide for the wife daily if with a job.
Beyond this, having little or much wealth is of no consideration in terms of suitability.

5. Religiousness

A religiously corrupt man is not suitable for a righteous woman with a righteous father.

A religiously corrupt man is suitable for a religiously corrupt woman, whether she has a righteous father or not.

6. Profession

This is considered in other than Arabs, and among Arabs who themselves work [f: i.e. as opposed to owning business interests, for example].

If the profession of the suitor and the woman�s father are similar in social standing, then he is considered a suitable match.

If the profession of the suitor and the woman�s father are disparate in social standing, then the suitor with a comparatively low profession is not considered suitable for someone of a high profession.

The customs of each land are considered in terms of the social standing of different professions.

wasalam

Peer Syed Mohyuddin Mahboob Hanfee qadri
Sajjada Nasheen Khanka Mahboobabad Shareef Havelian